In Touch...

Not until we are older do we often reflect on interactions we've had from our past.We review our past friendships, lovers and encounters. Random run-ins and timely coincidences.We may not always understand why certain people come into our lives, what purpose they serve, or why we went through an experience we did not plan for.What we do eventually process is the impact they did have on us, how ever slite. Sometimes the experience can be so profound that your encounter was only ever meant to happen the one time. Never to repeat itself.

I have encountered many different types of people. Some people with the biggest hearts and others with the shallowest souls. I've met people that have so much potential to positively affect this world but they choose to not and I've met others that would love to see it burn.Anyone who you see suffering from great or prolonged hatred, it is usually do to some extreme pain or hurt. A hurt that was not healed by either their own understanding of life or by the person who inflicted the pain.Something to understand is, that in life, you may never receive the apology you were looking for or hoping for.

We won't always hear the "I'm sorry" or be recognized by the person who caused us pain. The only person you can ever apologize to for any pain, is yourself. Healing the damage caused by another individual isn't always easy, but it's not impossible.

Most of the time the only reason we hold on to pain and wait for that apology, has to do with wanting that person to acknowledge us and the pain we feel they caused. We want them to admit they were wrong and to feel shame or embarassement. To tip the scales of power back into our favor. To have that person bend to our will once again; or to simply have them show us the respect that we gave to them. Through that acknowledgement we some how let go of hurt and are able to move on.

However depending on the severity of pain, an apology isn't always enough. The next step is then for us to deal with the emotion, or to have assistance from others.Don't discredit or discount anyone you meet. They may simply be here to help the healing process along. I guess where I'm going with this, is that pain isn't forever, hatred doesn't have to be the one thing that keeps you going, that loving with your heart open heals all wounds, and that taking every opportunity to meet people and find love, again and again, will see you through and make you a much better person; no matter where you are in your life.

There is two sides to everything: Emotional to Apathy, Hate to love, hurt to heal, "good" to "bad" (in however you view either of those words). They both exist to create an understanding of the other. When they say time heals all wounds. I'd have to disagree since time shares no relevance other than the relevance that we give it.

Healing begins with the individual who is hurt and wants to heal. When your bleeding because of a severe cut, the body begins the process of healing, but depending on the severity of the cut, YOU, have to take action to see that you heal properly and with the most care. If the situation is bad enough where you need help, you call for it. Then there are those situations that call for outside help to come and speak for you, when you can not. Healing starts with you, first and foremost. Not someone else. And when we are in need for additional love and healing, it comes...